Failing well is a skill. Research shows that how we interpret failure in our life affects how successful we will be in achieving success.
If you read Dan Savage, you know that nowadays there are many options for those among us who want unconventional relationships. Things were different in the old days. People who had a hard time conforming with norms often allowed themselves to behave in destructive ways to meet their desires. Read of the scandalous 1913 affair of the married lady who kept her 17 year old lover in the attic for 10 years.
Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished.
—Johan Wolfgang von Goethe
When I was born, my dad’s mom was already remarried to a divorced man, who became my grandpa. And my dad’s dad married a new woman – already divorced twice from the same man – who became my grandma; that pair are now divorced from each other. My mom’s parents also re-coupled with other divorced people…
In Chicago divorces typically take from 6 months to 3 years to resolve. There is a lot of stress and loneliness for the parties involved. A new “significant other” can often provide you the emotional support you need. If you find yourself falling in love with someone new, there are some precautions you need to take.
The New York Times has a “passion test” that you can use to determine whether the romance is gone. Results range from “extremely passionate” to “extremely cool”.