According to wikipedia, euphemisms are “used in place of one that may be found offensive or suggest something unpleasant.” Before we had divorcée (divorced woman), divorcé (divorced man), and divorcee (divorced man or woman), divorced people were referred to as there were “victims of divorces.”
Part of the job of a divorce lawyer is to explain the divorce process to clients. Much of my time as a lawyer is spent explaining how family law courts work, why a paper needs to be filed, and the meaning of legal words in a court document. I always thought that there should be a book that would cover these kinds of issues, a kind of “roadmap” to divorce that I could recommend to my clients. However, none of the books that I found seemed adequate. Thus, I was thrilled to recently discover Quickie Divorce by Linda H. Connell.
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Some people might expect a divorce book written by a judge to stress the importance of the judicial system in helping couples reach a just outcome in their divorce. If this is you, then you might be surprised at the advice offered by Judge Robert Duncan in this book.
Judge Duncan tells it like it is. He doesn’t aggrandize himself or the family law system to which he devoted most of his judicial career. For example, on dealing with divorce courts he states, he “saw over and over again that the system stinks.”
Divorce can be an overwhelming experience. Fathers' Rights is about empowerment. It teaches you how you can control the divorce process in the way that is most beneficial to you (as opposed to handing the control over to your spouse, lawyer or judge).
Fathers’ Rights is written for fathers who are having legal disputes over their children. The book offers a realistic, non confrontational approach to making things work. It does not tell you what you want to hear. Instead, it provides you with the information you need to obtain the best resolution to your problem.
I have always had a deep suspicion of divorce lawyers who claim to focus on a certain gender. These lawyers claim that the court system is biased against men or women. Although I have never been up against one of these “gender lawyers,” they have always struck me as unnecessarily adversarial.