Attorney Marie Fahnert is a divorce lawyer in Chicago, Illinois. She has devoted her career exclusively to family law and the associated financial and child-related issues of maintenance (spousal support), child-custody, child-support, division of property, valuation of businesses, and ante-nuptial agreements (prenups).
When I saw Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s TED speech, The danger of a single story, it brought back memories of a divorce case here in Chicago that I dealt with last year. Maybe if the people involved in the case had seen this video, they would have been more aware of the need to keep their
Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished.
—Johan Wolfgang von Goethe
My experience as a divorce lawyer shows that people are sometimes happy with a bad divorce judgment. Science backs up my anecdotal findings. We have a strong tendency to prefer whatever bitter apple life hands us.
A Youtube video of a dancing parrot (“Dancing with myself”), a TED video by a Harvard psychology professor, and a Spanish love song (“Jodida pero contenta”) explore our ability to synthesize happiness and its evolutionary meaning.
Gays can now marry in Illinois! It is now clear that sooner, rather than later, all states are going to follow. The Daily Show has stunt actors play a flamboyant same-sex couple in Mississippi and Louisiana to determine which state will be the last in the nation to fall.
In 1868 the New York Times published two hysterical posts on Chicago’s divorce rate and what this meant for Chicago’s future. I put Chicago’s 1868 divorce rate in perspective by comparing it to Chicago’s current divorce rate and with the divorce rate for countries around the world.
Time may pass, but people don’t change. Check out the scandalous yet surprisingly modern Burch divorce from the 1860s. Things were not necessarily better or more proper back in the day.
Apart from the lurid accusations the spouses leveled against each other, the public’s fascination is surpassingly modern.
According to wikipedia, euphemisms are “used in place of one that may be found offensive or suggest something unpleasant.” Before we had divorcée (divorced woman), divorcé (divorced man), and divorcee (divorced man or woman), divorced people were referred to as there were “victims of divorces.”
I just discovered this social media aggregator called Tint. It basically gathers feeds and posts them together in a pretty way. So for example, it can mix-up all the feeds from your twitter, Facebook, and linked-in accounts into one single feed. You can then post this feed online to make it easier on your friends to keep up with your latest developments.
I always advise clients to be on their best behavior even after the divorce. My theory is that your focus should be on improving yourself and this can only be accomplished through good behavior.
Former Chicago Board of Trade Chairman Patrick Arbor, who once bragged that his “record is impeccable and [he] has a good reputation”, has fled to Europe rather than deal with his divorce in Chicago.
One of the issues that arose during the divorce proceeding was Mr. Arbor’s failure to pay U.S. taxes on his off-shore accounts.
Never ask of money spent
Where the spender thinks it went.
Nobody was ever meant
To remember or invent
What he did with every cent.