Children and divorce

Children and divorce

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Is divorce the problem?

As a divorce lawyer, I often worry about the effect the divorce will have on the children of the marriage. Obviously many parents worry too. These parents cite statistics showing that children of divorce are more likely to commit crimes, get pregnant young and become underachievers.

What is a parenting agreement?

If you have children and are getting divorced, you will need a Parenting Agreement before your divorce is finalized. You and your lawyer should make sure that the Parenting Agreement states:

  • Which parent has residential custody of the child;
  • Whether parents will share legal custody of the child and, if not, which parent gets sole legal custody;
  • How much time the child will spend with each parent (in Illinois, parents usually prefer that the child spend one weekday evening and every other weekend with the non-residential parent);

Think you’ll never re-marry?

Think you’ll never re-marry?
 I just came across this Boston Globe article by a man who has seen too many divorces in his life:

When I was born, my dad’s mom was already remarried to a divorced man, who became my grandpa. And my dad’s dad married a new woman – already divorced twice from the same man – who became my grandma; that pair are now divorced from each other. My mom’s parents also re-coupled with other divorced people…

Marriage, men & genius

Marriage, men & genius

A fellow lawyer blogger has a blog post on a study that shows that brilliant scientist’s achievements waned after they got married:

Within five years of making their nuptial vows, nearly a quarter of married scientists had made their last significant contribution to history’s hall of fame. “Scientists rather quickly desist (from their careers) after their marriage, while unmarried scientists continue to make great scientific contributions later in their lives,” says Dr. Kanazawa.

If you’ve been bad: Apologize!

If you’ve been bad: Apologize!
 Many people believe that you should never apologize if there is any chance of a legal action against you. The belief is that apologizing might be an admission of guilt and this could work against you in a trial. Maybe there is some truth to this as far as a trial is concerned. However, many times an apology will prevent any kind of legal action against you.